How To Take Responsibility For Your Life And Change What Does Not Work
“The man who complains about the way the ball bounce is likely to be the one who dropped it.” ~ Lo Holtz
I spent a devastatingly large part of my life trapped, and blame others for my problems. I felt like I was wandering aimlessly, and my life was beyond my control.
I was working in a job sucking the soul, with a great deal of student debt. I was surrounded by fake friends, unsympathetic, in a toxic relationship, and I had very low respect.
All this was everyone’s fault. I was not responsible for anything in my life that was causing me pain.
I became a victim, and my sad being felt very much.
So she entered an exposed nightmare and moved to food, drugs and alcohol to escape suffering.
Rational that nothing about my condition was my responsibility and I spent years playing the blame game. I was the victim.
But because I beat everyone else, I did not take any steps to improve my circumstances. This mentality got me nowhere. I was stuck.
I have since realized that the only person who can change my life is me. Through exercise of mind, meditation, and training, I began to understand that I got myself into my position and I was the only one who could get myself out of it.
Everything in my life, regardless of whether I should blame it or not, is my responsibility.
We all have the ability to change our situation. The first step is to take responsibility for our lives and make informed decisions to guide ourselves in a new direction.
Today I present to you three ideas that I have been touched upon when it comes to taking responsibility for my life.
I hope these ideas help you take responsibility for creating the life you want to live and take action to do it.
- No one else is responsible for our thoughts, feelings, words or actions.
Accept that you are responsible for your thoughts, feelings, words and actions, and no one else can make you think, feel, say or do anything. No matter what they say or do, you are still responsible for how they respond.
The thoughts occur in your mind, which provokes feelings in your body, which lead to words coming out of your mouth and actions coming from your body.
What part of this process involves anyone else? nothing.
When I was in an abusive relationship, I constantly felt that I was the victim, and I was in this relationship, but I did not have to remain a victim in my life.
I was wandering around the house and feeling depressed, and refused to take responsibility for my optional stay in the relationship. This mentality made me unable to change things for the better.
In the end, I realized that although I might not be responsible for my friend’s actions, I was only responsible for how I responded to her – then I decided to take action and leave that relationship. I have been transformed from an out-of-control victim to power, flexibility, and control of my life.
I am now in the driver’s seat!